One True Sentence

You've decided to tell them. You've been deciding for about three weeks, and every time you get close to it, the sentence comes out wrong in your head. One version sounds like a complaint about them. The next sounds like an apology for existing. A third has the word attachment in it, and you can already see their expression change at a term like that. So you don't say it, and the not saying joins everything else you're carrying. The versions that go wrong all give the other person a job: defend, reassure, or interpret. This one-page guide is somewhere to build the version that asks nothing at all.

What's inside

A single page for building the sentence, before the moment you say it.

• Five versions that reliably don't land — the accusation-shaped one, the apology-shaped one, the label-shaped one, the mid-moment one, the comprehensive one
• What happens in my body — the physical thing described plainly, not the interpretation of it
• When it tends to happen — the specific occasion, named in advance, on a quiet day
• What I'm not asking them to do — written down, so it stays out of the sentence
• A reflection line for what you noticed

My body reacts like something's wrong, even when I know it isn't.

The prompts are fillable — type straight into the page on your phone or laptop, and save it.