The Cycle Map
The free companion to
Steady and Connected Podcast: Episode 5
One reaches, one retreats — trace one moment of the loop.
You reach for them, and they step back. So you reach again — and they step back again. By the end of the evening, one of you is following and one is behind a closed door, and neither of you meant for it to go this way. This one-page pocket guide walks you through tracing one moment of that loop — your reaction, their reaction, the story you told, and the small exit you might take next time.
What's inside
A one-page pocket companion for tracing one recent pursue-withdraw moment, gently.
- Five cues that the loop is starting — with checkboxes to mark what you notice
- A four-step trace: your reaction, their reaction, the story you told, and the exit ramp
- The locked practice phrase for this episode
- A space to reflect on what you noticed
Why naming your own half matters — it's the one input you're in charge of.
A reaction you can see is one you can eventually shift to a response.
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